Returning home from combat can be extremely challenging. Soldiers might find that they can’t sleep or are nervous or angry much of the time. These emotions often strain relationships. The first step is to learn what is causing your loved one pain (as much as you can), and from there, you can work together to foster healing.

What do Veterans Feel Like After Combat?

There are many struggles facing soldiers after they return home. The individual struggles can vary, but many experience some of the following:

• Recurring physical pain
• Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), which can induce vivid flashbacks
• Intense nightmares
• Grief and guilt over losses experienced

Also, servicemen and women are constantly on guard against threats. Releasing that sense of alertness and tension can be difficult, even once they’ve returned to safety.

What Should I Expect as a Family Member?

Typically, family members are thrilled when loved ones come back from service. But that joy can dissipate quickly. If your newly returned soldier often seems uneasy, you might feel alienated from him or her.

One-on-one time can speed the process of reconnecting. If the returning soldier is your significant other, you’ll need time to rekindle the romance. It could feel like you’ve just begun dating again.

Likewise, children and teenagers benefit from plenty of day trips and one-on-one sessions at home with their veteran parent. That way, they can reconnect with the mom or dad who’s become a little unfamiliar lately.

Try not to take their moods personally. You might find that your former soldier answers you brusquely on occasion. Members of the military frequently bark commands and express blunt opinions to each other. There’s no time for politeness in life-or-death situations, and that speaking style can become a habit. The best thing you can do is return surliness with love – show your loved one how much you care.