Why Willpower Doesn’t Work, and Why More Meaning Does
Family members and friends who are not addicts themselves often have no comprehension of how compelled an addict feels to continue their obsessive drug seeking behavior. I work with a lot of families of addicts who are severely confused about why the addict can’t just use willpower to stop drinking or taking drugs. They can stop easily, why can’t the addict?
Once a family understands from a biochemical standpoint why their loved one is choosing drugs over their family and friends, they begin to have greater compassion for the hell their loved one is trapped in. This takes a lot of the blame out of the family relationship so that the focus can shift to treatment.
We also work with therapists in the addiction field and we have found that once they understand the neurobiology of the Meaning Network and dopamine’s role in it, they start to shift their perspective. They begin to see that just getting the addict off of drugs and into AA or NA, while a good start, may not be enough. They must then begin to focus more heavily on helping the recovering addict find other things in their lives that can give them meaning to stimulate their dopamine circuits other than drugs and drink.